Mirroring Irritation?

How often do you react negatively to things in people that you dislike about yourself? I mean like if you're disorganissed, you may find yourself giving others a hard time for being disorganised...

I've caught myself doing that on-and off and I monitor this carefully. But it irritates like hell when others do it back to me.

To the extent that it drives me to look for a different path in life itself sometimes.

I wish I could catch these people - one in particular and shake them into seeing this - I know that I can - but it will take the mutual irritation on to a whole new plane. That wouldn't help would it now?